14 tips from a psychologist on how to make a marriage strong

Psychologists say that strong marriages for life are not a coincidence but a conscious choice of partners. If you think about your spouse's needs, feelings, goals, and problems first, such a relationship has good prospects.

At the same time, according to the News 24 website, "one-sided love leaves the loving partner hurt and the marriage becomes unhappy." Here are some tips from experts that will help you strengthen your union and make your relationship harmonious.

• Communicate on equal terms, going beyond your internal realities. You can't build a healthy marriage by ridiculing your partner every time he or she says things that you think don't make sense.

• Work on your own flaws, do not look for them in your partner. Very often, the person who needs to change for the better is you.
• Do not constantly return to the "wounds" of the past and reproaches for the offenses inflicted on you. Learn mercy, the ability to forgive and forget offenses.
• Every day, win your partner's heart, make gifts and surprises to keep the "chemistry" of your relationship regularly updated.

• Do not turn conflicts and misunderstandings into disasters. Put out fires in the family as soon as possible.
• Allow your spouse to experience emotions in their own way. Resist the temptation to dictate to your partner what they should feel and how they should express their feelings.
• Practice independent thinking and encourage it in your spouse. A good marriage is not about thinking alike but about thinking together and offering different ideas for more effective decision-making.

• Do not complicate the relationship with generalizations and do not build "monuments to mistakes". Remember that everyone makes mistakes, and this should not depress a person for the rest of their life.
• Focus on the positive aspects and always take into account the best traits of their character.
• Don't lose yourself and you won't lose your loved one. Keep the best of what brought you together and what is dear to your partner.

• Remember that you are always on the same side. Trust is the foundation of a strong marriage, while suspicion and insincerity in a relationship means its end.
• Always apologize and correct your mistakes if you are wrong.
• Keep romance in mind and spend time together more often. "If we don't play together, we fight instinctively." Thus, sincerely show your partner how lucky you are to have found each other.
• Don't give up easily in family crises, don't rush to slam the door and leave forever. As long as you both want the marriage to live, no one will destroy it but you.